The
right way to a man's heart just isn't through his stomach--or even his
pants. It's through his skin. Once you learn the ability of erotic touch
(don't get worried, it's not rocket science), you'll not only give him
enough time of his life while having sex, you'll also feel closer to him
than you have in, oh, years.
Our
whole erotic massage ritual can take half an hour, but in this
relatively small amount of time you'll take care of to hit all the
erogenous zones you understand about--and dozens you don't. You're
looking for some oil and a warm room, and it might feel sexy to ask
questions to get better results as you go ("How does this feel? " "Do
you like that? ")--though silence can be just like steamy.
The Pep Talk
Amazingly,
some men may balk at the idea of acquiring an erotic massage. In the
event your husband is hesitant to being rubbed and cherished for a fifty
percent hour, simply say, "Try this for me. Not any strings attached.
If you hate it after five minutes, we'll stop. inch Men, strangely,
often need to be pulled to heaven, kicking and yelling the whole way.
Nevertheless if he's a prepared participant, get him to do a few minutes
of simple stretching in advance. Have him prepare his body the same way
he'd get ready for a run: a few lunges to loosen the legs, a few left
arm twirls for the biceps and triceps and back. His blood circulation
will be better, and his muscle tension will ease up.
Coming from the Top
To get five minutes:
Have him lie face up on the bed; position yourself behind his head.
(Since this is merely a 30-minute massage, we're excluding the back. But
it has a few major sexy zones there--shoulder blades, lower back,
butt--if you have some extra time. ) Begin scratching his head with your
nails. Search for the folds of his ears, the contours of his cheekbones
and nasal area. Then place your hands on the back of his head, as if
you were holding a cantaloupe in cupped hands. Where his neck fulfills
the skull, you will find little hollows in the bone. These
hollows--acupressure points, actually--are little-known erogenous zones.
To give them their anticipated, put your fingertips with them and
slowly but surely improve the pressure. Then grasp his mind at the jaw
and pull it toward you gently, stretching his neck of the guitar
muscles. "By pressing the points and stretching muscles, you'll increase
his flow and awaken his feelings, " says acupressure expert Michael
Reed Gach, Ph level. D.
The
Third Vision (center of the your forehead, directly between the
eyebrows) and the temples (at the sides of the forehead) is also
acupressure points. Gently press the Third Eye for one minute; then
lightly move your fingers on his temples for 30 secs. This will relieve
pressure and allow sexual exhilaration to flow.
For get 3 minutes:
Now you must to give attention to the hip region. The area that runs
from the tummy button to the genitalia is an erogenous region, so don't
neglect it. Get started with the navel itself: circle the rim of an
innie, or the base camp of the outie (a direct hit might give your
husband the willies). Three or four finger-widths down from there,
you'll find a super-important spot acupressurists call the Gate of
Origin, right over the bladder. Press it very gently (if he didn't pee
before the massage began, this individual may need to now) to "open
sexual energy, " says Gach. ALSO KNOWN AS: it's going to really turn him
on.
"You'll
also find acupressure details in which the legs join the trunk of the
body (those thick tendons in the groin). Lean into them slowly but
surely with the heel of your hands, " advises Gach. "Ask your partner to
breathe in into your hands; maintain it for a day or two. " At this
time point, his sexual energy will be flowing just like a raging river.
For eight minutes:
Moving right along to his upper body. It could seem to be like a lot of
flesh to press very quickly, but you'll be surprised how fast you
glide. Situation yourself at his part, and "use full-hand contact
whenever feasible, " advises Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph. Deb., a Tucson
sexologist. Go both hands to the shoulder/upper-chest area. The Shoulder
Very well, an acupressure point in the middle of the tendons on either
aspect of the base of the neck, needs to be kneaded: "This area is a
real stress center, but only work with it for a day, " says Gach.
"Longer than that and this individual might get a frustration. "
Then
take notice of the clavicle: The indentations under the collarbone are
unsung erogenous areas. Press them gently with your thumb and
forefinger. Then move to the middle of the breastbone, right over the
cardiovascular, and feel for a dimple in the bone. This acupressure
point is called the Sea of Tranquility, and it's a heavy-duty relaxation
trigger. The moment pressed with your fingertips, it'll ease tension in
his chest.
Now
is actually time for the olive oil. Pour some on his upper chest, and
using what Stubbs calls a connecting stroke (long, smooth, flat-handed
rub), move from his breastbone over to the nipples. Nipples--another sex
zone, even as know--are also acupressure points. To heating his blood,
gently crunch the nub and move (this is key--don't turn the thing clean
off his body) the weed between your thumb and index finger.
Next,
move your hands toward one of his arms. Generally there are two hot
areas on the limb, such as the armpit and the crook inside the arm.
You'll notice that these are generally both creases: All lines are
erogenous zones (the butt crack, the bottom of the knee, where the thigh
meets the pelvis, where ear satisfies the skull). Tickling lines may
induce giggles, so stick to what Stubbs calls feather strokes, or
lightly dragging your convenience over the skin. Scrub each arm, then
provide him a quick hand/finger massage.
